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I don't feel good enough - time to uncover your story with this simple yet powerful exercise...
Each blog post in this series is also a more detailed expansion of a related podcast episode and if you want to listen to each episode as you read through the posts, then please do!
So this post is an expansion of this podcast here:
So let's explore more about your current story when it comes to your sense of self worth and deservingness and I've got an exercise for you to try if it feels good for you to do so - not because we want to beat the drum of what's happened in the past .
I'm not one for going back over the past in great detail since I think it's far more important that we work on our present moment and create a different past for our future if needed.
... but what we want is to be aware of what is going on and all of the things that have underpinned our sense of self worth up until now. Because once we have this full awareness, once we are awake to what is really going on, we can then start to change it.
So this exercise is all about writing a letter to yourself - a letter to your past self acknowledging all the ways that you've let people or things outside of you control your sense of self worth.
Now this is a great thing to get down on paper but not necessarily your journal unless you particularly like to go back to things to see how far you have come.... but in addition, you may want to destroy this letter when you have finished with it, particularly if you're letting out a rampage which is to do with other people and you don't actually want them to find and read it!
If you are concerned about someone reading it and have a private password protected notepad on your phone or computer, you can also use this if it feels better.
And if you need to, please read the last two posts in this series because they will help to put this exercise into context and what I will say is...
If you have got some deep rooted stuff and you feel like you might 'unravel' if you start working on this, please do seek some expert help. This exercise is not intended to replace any professional advice and may not be enough for you so always please take full responsibility for your own wellbeing.
This exercise is really for people that want to increase their awareness around the external forces that they feel are affecting their self worth and made them feel less than worthy in the past so that they can start to release and create a new story for their life.
So before you write this letter or journal entry, go back to the notes you made from the last post (opens in a new window) about all of the areas outside of you that you feel have determined your self worth up until now.
If you said yes to one or more of these things listed in the last post, then this is an exercise that is really gonna help with your awareness.
So take your pen and paper and just start writing from the heart in detail how this has been, what it makes you feel, who has made you feel less than, if you feel angry at a certain person or situation, how sad it has made you in a way that is loving towards yourself - but just let the words flow - just let it out like a rampage .
If you have more than one area that makes you feel less then, just take one area at a time and write about them one at a time. Don't censor yourself if possible - especially if you are able to destroy your letter later. This is just for your eyes only so that you can release stuff and let it go.
I have used this 'letter to myself' for several areas of my life and it just feels so good to do this - after all, who else can you write such an open letter to if not yourself?
Sometimes we hold so much inside of us - resentments about things that have happened, times when people have said things to us that made us feel less than.... just that act of writing it all down in a letter to ourselves is so therapeutic.
This letter is not intended to go out to those people that you write about and there is no need to show it to anyone. This is totally personal for your own awareness and clarity!
So once you have written down all that detail, you can finish your letter with something really empowering like this (feel free to put this in your own words):
"So my amazing self - I know that up until now all of these things and more have determined my sense of self worth.
I now know that I was looking for love in all the wrong places and I promise that from this day forward, everything will change.
I know that I am enough just as I am. I know that I am perfect, whole and complete just as I am. I know that nothing outside of me is a measure of my self worth.
Because I just am. I am enough. I am a child of the universe and I am enough. Perfection not required. I love me just as I am and it's time to change my story."
I hope that feels good to do and if you have completed this exercise I dope you find it as freeing as I have in the past. Don't be fooled by its simplicity, this really is a powerful exercise for getting it all out, drawing a line i the sand and the start of a whole new story.
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