So more on that subject of upgrading your life and out with the old and in this session I wanted to talk specifically about your wardrobe. So what is your wardrobe saying about you?I recently cleared out mine and it feels so good. I realised that the items of clothing I was hanging onto was ridiculous.
At the time of recording this, I have lost around 45lb so many things that were just too big or way past their best. I was keeping stuff because it was familiar to me and 'just in case' - or I was telling myself it would do for 'just around the house' - yeah right, great energy feeling like a scruffy bag lady walking around you home right? And I thought about what this was saying about me.
Let's talk about upgrading your life (and even maybe your loo too lol!) How many of us actually just settle with what we have in our lives? All this old tattered stuff and things that no longer serve us just create an energy that isn't aligning us with a life we love. So what are you tolerating in your life? What are you putting up with that feels stagnant and creates a feeling of lack or unworthiness.
Do you have something that you have wanted or needed to do for ages because doing it will actually benefit you in some way? Well I had something that I have been meaning to sort it for ages and it was even something that saved me money! It made me realise how this had built up as mental clutter and that I could of actually done this thing a couple of months ago because the relief I experienced when I actually did it felt sooo good (not to mention the savings that I made!).
What you focus on expands and lets look at how you can let go of something that is bugging you today because as we all know, energy flows where your focus goes. Most of us live in the past or the future instead of enjoying the present moment. All those old stories go though our mind again and again. So change starts by telling ourselves a different story and the quickest way to do this is to focus on the feeling instead.
Alignment isn't just about feeling good. It's also about how we align with our thoughts, feelings and beliefs and one way of doing this is to change or enhance who we are being.It can really help to think of someone that you admire, either someone in your life or someone in the public eye who you would like to be more like. What is one quality that this person has which you would like to invite into your life.
I always get the urge to declutter before the festive season and getting rid of the old feels so good and makes way for the new to come in. Decluttering has so many benefits and these reach much further than just the nice feeling of having a clean spacious room. Physically, saving the extra minutes everyday trying to find things, housework feeling a lot easier, letting go of the idea that we always need extra storage and being able to enjoy the stuff we love feels so good in itself!
So let's talk about what we must to to achieve our goals - especially as if like me you are starting to set yourself a lot of stretch goals at the moment. A lot of us set goals but there are some mistakes that we make along the way that can stop us achieving them or cause us to give up on them too quickly. Here we explore some of these mistakes and why they may be sabotaging your efforts. These areas are: Not loving 'what is', focusing on the loss or absence of something, focusing on how far you have to go,
So here's another way that you may be sabotaging your manifestation mojo without even realising it. You may see the universe as something separate from yourself! Now this has it's place and seeing the universe as a separate entity can really help when you are doing some fun manifestation practices. And although we know deep down that we need to take 100% responsibility for our life, we do start to rely too much on that thought that the universe miraculously delivers us anything we want on a plate. So we start to see the universe as this big wishing well instead of it being an alignment practice but this can cause us to be separate from it all. We hand over the responsibility to this higher power when WE ARE that higher power. Everything comes from inside! We are the creators of our world.
If you are anything like me, you may have become obsessed with conscious creation and universal laws to a certain extent. Whether you are fairly new to the concept or have been studying manifestation for years, you will know that finding quicker and easier ways to align with your desires can be quite addictive. But as amazing as it is to know and understand how we create our own reality, there is also a downside and that is...We may simply know too much about it all!And why is this a downside? Lets explore this more in this episode...
So we all get that monkey mind, you know that part of your mind that thinks obsessive repetitive thoughts, that chatters constantly, that is always telling you how wrong you are, that you shouldn't have said something, that's constantly niggling at you, that tells you you are stupid, that makes your mind race with thoughts that don't even serve you and so on...To calm your monkey mind, you need to embrace it and make peace with it and accept it but there are also times when we need to let go of those thoughts when they don't feel good and this is how we can start to do that.
A few weeks ago I changed my 'to do' list to a 'get to do' list. I did this because I found myself getting overwhelmed and frustrated with my long list of to dos and decided to see how it felt to re-frame this. My 'get to do' list helps me to be more appreciative of all the things I have in my life, all the freedom that I experience in so many areas and how much I have access to in my life. Try this and see how your attitude changes when you appreciate that you get to do all those things when so many people in this world just aren't as lucky as you.
How often do you beat yourself up and agonise over every little thing - maybe something you said or a situation where you felt you weren't your best self for some reason. But how about we all just celebrate the fact that we are human and recognise that messing up sometimes is just all part of this beautiful experience. As long as we are doing our best with the highest good of others in mind, we need to drop that shame energy and just be at ease with this human side of us.
So society (at least as I know it), encourages us to suppress our emotions. Logic is revered above all else but I don't think we should suppress them - in fact suppressing feelings can be bad for our health in general as they fester inside us.So whilst you don't want to be an emotional wreck wherever you go, you need to be able to feel your feelings in some way - we all need an outlet of some sort. So here are some ideas that might help you to express your emotions in a safe and effective way.
Affirmations don't work if you are feeling the total opposite inside, especially if you don't believe that they are true - this is a bit frustrating, especially when we create affirmations to help us achieve or be more. In this episode I talk about how to create affirmations that feel good to you and that are believable. With just a few tweaks and playing with the words you can create affirmations that you feel totally aligned with so that you can easily drop that resistance.
Our feelings are everything when it comes to our alignment. You may have heard the phrase 'thoughts become things' but its only really part of the story. Its not just what we think, its what we are feeling as a result of this thought. This is why some affirmations don't work, because we don't feel like we are aligned to them and life is a mirror after all - so trying too hard to affirm something that doesn't feel true means you are affirming the absence of it instead.