So it's been a strangely emotional time for many of us. Life as we know it has changed drastically for now so I thought it might help and be a comfort for many of you to talk through The Change Curve by Kubler-Ross. I thought of this when I sat and pondered my own emotions over the last few days. We used this model a lot in the corporate world and I realised that I was following this again right now and most importantly - that it was normal and ok to feel this way.
Right now it really feels like the world is going mad and unless you have been hiding under a rock these past weeks, you will have seen the Coronavirus media going crazy with stories about how this might affect us all. As usual, the media frenzy has caused mass panic that takes valuable resources and services away from those who really need them and has created a huge feeling of lack and fear. So lets look at how you can gain a bit of perspective around this and manage your personal energy even if you can't control everything else!
Yes you really can change a relationship instantly in your life - on an energetic level but only if you realise that it starts with you. In fact it comes from you because everyone else is you 'pushed out', in fact we don't see people as 'they' are, we see people as 'we' are. Lets talk about how changing our expectations and behaviour can allow something very different in our reality.
So who or what pushes your buttons in your immediate environment? What are the things or the people who are taking your focus day in, day out and affecting your energy. We can view all of these things in our lives as a nuisance or we can see these things as lessons that we need to help us learn something specific and evolve.
Since a virus the whole family had between Christmas and New Year, I have felt the pressure building up in my head - manifesting as blocked sinuses and ears and it has been driving me mad! So why is it only this week that I realised that I am feeling under pressure in general and that maybe the blocked pressure I feel in my head is just a manifestation of what I am feeling inside coming into physical form!
Is goal setting leaving you uninspired? Letting yourself off the hook! As my first podcast for 2020, I was going to talk about goals - after all, it's a new year and that's what we do right, set goals? However as amazing as goals are when you are aligned and inspired, you also may have times when you feel uninspired and overwhelmed. And when times like this happen, the resistance in us can make us feel an even bigger push to do something about it.
So how do we stop manifesting what we don't want - and I'm not talking about those times when contrast is very necessary - I am talking more about manifesting by default due to the signal we are omitting day after day. Whatever you are putting out into the world, you are attracting back. Life is a mirror and this is not something you can switch off. It is turned on 24/7 and this does not mean we need to get paranoid about our thoughts - it's impossible for us to be positive every minute of the day.
So we all get that monkey mind, you know that part of your mind that thinks obsessive repetitive thoughts, that chatters constantly, that is always telling you how wrong you are, that you shouldn't have said something, that's constantly niggling at you, that tells you you are stupid, that makes your mind race with thoughts that don't even serve you and so on...To calm your monkey mind, you need to embrace it and make peace with it and accept it but there are also times when we need to let go of those thoughts when they don't feel good and this is how we can start to do that.
I have been in a bit of a funk myself this past few days as you may have noticed from a couple of my podcasts but this is totally normal, we all get like it from time to time - perfection not required after all....even when we are conscious creators! Here are three ways that I used yesterday to get out of my funk and I hope they help you to make a shift if you are just having one of those days.
How can you see the gifts in the contrast when life doesn't feel like it's going that well? Often the only way past a challenge is though it and the quickest way to get through it is to see those gifts in the contrast which helps to re-frame and neutralise the energy that is otherwise being fed by our sheer overwhelm and constant attention.