So do you feel like you can truly be yourself? It was something that someone said to me yesterday that really got me thinking about this. So when you are around your family, friends or work colleagues are you who you really want to be or are you being who you think others want you to be. It is easy to take on other peoples energy and start to just be like the people you are with at the time.
So how do I get someone to like me? Do you have a personal or work relationship is strained? This episode will help you realise that you are not everybody's cup of tea' and you might want to go back to podcast number 10. and 11. as these will also expand on this subject - links below:
So more on that subject of upgrading your life and out with the old and in this session I wanted to talk specifically about your wardrobe. So what is your wardrobe saying about you?I recently cleared out mine and it feels so good. I realised that the items of clothing I was hanging onto was ridiculous.
At the time of recording this, I have lost around 45lb so many things that were just too big or way past their best. I was keeping stuff because it was familiar to me and 'just in case' - or I was telling myself it would do for 'just around the house' - yeah right, great energy feeling like a scruffy bag lady walking around you home right? And I thought about what this was saying about me.
Let's talk about upgrading your life (and even maybe your loo too lol!) How many of us actually just settle with what we have in our lives? All this old tattered stuff and things that no longer serve us just create an energy that isn't aligning us with a life we love. So what are you tolerating in your life? What are you putting up with that feels stagnant and creates a feeling of lack or unworthiness.
Alignment isn't just about feeling good. It's also about how we align with our thoughts, feelings and beliefs and one way of doing this is to change or enhance who we are being.It can really help to think of someone that you admire, either someone in your life or someone in the public eye who you would like to be more like. What is one quality that this person has which you would like to invite into your life.
A few weeks ago I changed my 'to do' list to a 'get to do' list. I did this because I found myself getting overwhelmed and frustrated with my long list of to dos and decided to see how it felt to re-frame this. My 'get to do' list helps me to be more appreciative of all the things I have in my life, all the freedom that I experience in so many areas and how much I have access to in my life. Try this and see how your attitude changes when you appreciate that you get to do all those things when so many people in this world just aren't as lucky as you.
How often do you beat yourself up and agonise over every little thing - maybe something you said or a situation where you felt you weren't your best self for some reason. But how about we all just celebrate the fact that we are human and recognise that messing up sometimes is just all part of this beautiful experience. As long as we are doing our best with the highest good of others in mind, we need to drop that shame energy and just be at ease with this human side of us.
So society (at least as I know it), encourages us to suppress our emotions. Logic is revered above all else but I don't think we should suppress them - in fact suppressing feelings can be bad for our health in general as they fester inside us.So whilst you don't want to be an emotional wreck wherever you go, you need to be able to feel your feelings in some way - we all need an outlet of some sort. So here are some ideas that might help you to express your emotions in a safe and effective way.
I am so having fun with this little phrase - not just when I recorded this but I have also carried this on ever since. My lovely friend sent this to me when I needed it most (thank you lovely friend - you know who you are!) and this phrase was TGIF - Thank God I'm Fabulous - and I decided the very next day to start adding this to all my sentences, especially my self talk and it makes me smile every time I do it. It feels light to me and it lifts my energy.So why not pick your vibe lifter phase today, either this one or one of your own that feels great and use it all day long just to see how amazing it makes you feel.
So many of us use a 'to do' list throughout our day with varying levels of success - all very useful and I love them myself! However, there is something that is even more important and powerful than this which is often overlooked and that is starting our day with a 'to be' list.So deciding who we want to be each day can help us set some powerful intentions that guides our energy and outcome and in this podcast we go through a few examples of how this can really help that energy shift into a better place.
So what about those days where you are overwhelmed, tired, worn out and don't feel like you have much energy to give. Well sometimes we just have to suck it up and do our best to turn it all around. We get to set our intentions for our day so instead of spending the whole day moaning to everyone around us about how we feel, we can decide that it is going to be a great day anyway - as much as possible based on our energy levels anyway.
The 1% rule is a simple way of starting your day with the intention that you are going to make everything 1% better today. It's a great exercise when you feel like your energy is a little low and gets you focusing on making the world a better place instead of withdrawing inwards.In this episode it's all about you - we talk about how you can apply the 1% rule to your self love and self care. Giving to yourself, looking after yourself means that you have more to give to others and more energy to shine your light in the world.
So how do we stop being a people pleaser and I'm not talking about helping people because we feel inspired, I'm talking about trying to get everyone to like us and being too much of a 'yes' person which causes us to fall out of alignment with ourselves.
Why you need to be your own best friend - why the way you treat yourself is so important and how it can help you align with the reactions you receive from other people. So start noticing your self talk and think of yourself as you would someone you really care about. Consider how you would treat a really good friend and start to apply these principles to yourself.
Yes really - what other people think of you is none of your business and here is why.... because if you make what everyone else thinks of you 'your' business, then you will never be able to trust yourself.
Let's explore whether you should stop caring what other people think and what is really behind it. It's time to start focusing on those opinions you care about the most and make what everyone else thinks 'none of your business.
So who am I anyway? So you have decided that you do have the courage to be yourself which feels good but then we stop and wonder 'who am I anyway?' - simply because we have spent so much time trying to fit in with other people that we realise we never actually decided who we really want to be hmmm...
So lets talk about having the courage to be yourself because we spend most of our lives trying to adapt to others and trying to be what 'we think' they want us to be but there is a freedom in deciding that you like who you truly are and that you get to decide who you want to be.
It really is not your responsibility to make anyone happy nor is it anyone else's responsibility to make you happy. Be around people when you can add to their happiness - not when they expect you to create it!