So it's been a strangely emotional time for many of us. Life as we know it has changed drastically for now so I thought it might help and be a comfort for many of you to talk through The Change Curve by Kubler-Ross. I thought of this when I sat and pondered my own emotions over the last few days. We used this model a lot in the corporate world and I realised that I was following this again right now and most importantly - that it was normal and ok to feel this way.
Right now it really feels like the world is going mad and unless you have been hiding under a rock these past weeks, you will have seen the Coronavirus media going crazy with stories about how this might affect us all. As usual, the media frenzy has caused mass panic that takes valuable resources and services away from those who really need them and has created a huge feeling of lack and fear. So lets look at how you can gain a bit of perspective around this and manage your personal energy even if you can't control everything else!
How to visualise and manifest - or even how to just visualise full stop! A lot of people have told me that they find it difficult to visualise at all so here is a simple exercise that will take just 1 minute to prove that all of us have the capability to visualise.... In fact we are doing it all day every day, except we may spend more time visualising about what we DON'T want instead of what we DO want.
Change your story, change your life - starting with awareness.
I wanted to cover a subject close to my heart because this really is at the centre of all manifesting - both wanted and unwanted and that is 'our story'. We tend to do things, say things on a day to day basis that are keeping us stuck.
A bit like a re-run of an old movie that just keeps playing the same script over and over again. And when we play the same script over and over again, we get the same results over and over again. So we start our days knowing exactly what is going to happen. We do the same old things, talk to the same old people, moan about the same old stuff. Yes, our lives can end up a bit like groundhog day!
So we are continuing with our theme of creating our year instead of traditional goal setting so grab your journal and ponder the question for this session to add to your blueprint for the year ahead.
What do you want to do more of this year?
So think back over the past year and consider the parts of the year that you particularly enjoyed. This can be something that you did regularly or it can be a one off event that you really enjoyed and makes you smile or feel joyful whenever you think about it.
Is this something that you want to include more of in your life?
So over the past few sessions we have been adding layers of ideas and questions to help you make this a great year without the traditional goal setting and here is another question for you to help create that blueprint even further.
What passions do you want to spend time on this year?
And let's face it, it you are anything like me, your life is pretty full in one way or another - organising family life, running a home, your career or whatever else it maybe for you.
But are you taking any time for yourself to do what you are passionate about?
Do you even know what you are passionate about right now?
I hope you enjoyed creating your theme for the year and making that list of the person that you want to be for the coming year and beyond! In this episode I have another question for you to help you create a great year and that is: What do you want to be known for this year?
So to do this, you need to imagine for a moment that you are at the end of the year looking back over what you have achieved this year. And you can either do this as a journal entry or you can imagine that you are having a discussion with someone you are close with - or even your higher self. Whatever feels good to you...
Since a virus the whole family had between Christmas and New Year, I have felt the pressure building up in my head - manifesting as blocked sinuses and ears and it has been driving me mad! So why is it only this week that I realised that I am feeling under pressure in general and that maybe the blocked pressure I feel in my head is just a manifestation of what I am feeling inside coming into physical form!
So in the last episode we talked about creating a theme for the year and I shared what my theme was for 2020 and also what I chose for the last couple of years. Doing this really creates a foundation that gives you focus for the year so if you haven't listened to that episode - number 50. Then please do go back to that one later.
What is your theme for the year? So in the last episode I talked about how we need to let ourselves off the hook when we are not feeling inspired about setting goals for the year. So in the next few sessions I will be giving you ideas on how you can create your year without the traditional goal setting or you can use these ideas as the base of your goal setting when you feel ready.
Is goal setting leaving you uninspired? Letting yourself off the hook! As my first podcast for 2020, I was going to talk about goals - after all, it's a new year and that's what we do right, set goals? However as amazing as goals are when you are aligned and inspired, you also may have times when you feel uninspired and overwhelmed. And when times like this happen, the resistance in us can make us feel an even bigger push to do something about it.
Today's message is about being more present this festive season. Being present isn't just about meditating or sitting in silence, it's about being in the moment and appreciating everything 'that is' right now. Think more about enjoying this festive season and having that lighter touch.
So do you feel like you can truly be yourself? It was something that someone said to me yesterday that really got me thinking about this. So when you are around your family, friends or work colleagues are you who you really want to be or are you being who you think others want you to be. It is easy to take on other peoples energy and start to just be like the people you are with at the time.
This episode follows on from the last 2 sessions so if you have't had a chance to listen to those, please go back to this episode: 44. Stop manifesting What You Don't Want and 45. Your Words Are Powerful. In this episode I talk through a nice easy exercise using just pen and paper to start flipping those thoughts that you have identified from the last few days.I hope this really helps you to focus on those better feeling thoughts to take you into 2020 strong and in the coming episodes we will be focusing on getting your year off to a great start.
In this episode, we talk about words and how they are so powerful. After all, everything we say is an affirmation...and as I said in the last podcast, your dominant thoughts create those strong emotions and those thoughts and emotions are caused by the words that you use every day. If you could spend just 1 day minimum jotting down the thoughts that you think, you would quickly see why your outer world is the way it is right now. It will reflect what you are focusing on the most. The first step to turning anything around is to be aware.
So how do we stop manifesting what we don't want - and I'm not talking about those times when contrast is very necessary - I am talking more about manifesting by default due to the signal we are omitting day after day. Whatever you are putting out into the world, you are attracting back. Life is a mirror and this is not something you can switch off. It is turned on 24/7 and this does not mean we need to get paranoid about our thoughts - it's impossible for us to be positive every minute of the day.
So let's talk about your only job as a conscious creator because I know that you sometimes try and control absolutely everything - how do I know this? Because we all do it of course and even I have to keep reminding myself of this!If you just did these few things day in and day out until it became a habit, you will be amazed at the positive changes that come your way.So if you are creating my default instead of design then you might want to get a pen and paper and start getting more specific about what you want to create.
Some time ago when I discovered the 5-Step Manifestation process which I have used for some time now. It has been a great tool for helping me to push forward in so many areas of my life - one of them being this podcast...But it also highlighted how unclear I was about hat I actually wanted. I'd sit down with one of the audios and I would go blank?
Wow, what did I actually want in each of the areas of my life. And it made me realise that if I don't actually know what I want - how is the universe, source energy or whatever higher power there is within me - going to create what I want in my life?
Do you have something that you have wanted or needed to do for ages because doing it will actually benefit you in some way? Well I had something that I have been meaning to sort it for ages and it was even something that saved me money! It made me realise how this had built up as mental clutter and that I could of actually done this thing a couple of months ago because the relief I experienced when I actually did it felt sooo good (not to mention the savings that I made!).
What you focus on expands and lets look at how you can let go of something that is bugging you today because as we all know, energy flows where your focus goes. Most of us live in the past or the future instead of enjoying the present moment. All those old stories go though our mind again and again. So change starts by telling ourselves a different story and the quickest way to do this is to focus on the feeling instead.