Yes you really can change a relationship instantly in your life - on an energetic level but only if you realise that it starts with you. In fact it comes from you because everyone else is you 'pushed out', in fact we don't see people as 'they' are, we see people as 'we' are. Lets talk about how changing our expectations and behaviour can allow something very different in our reality.
So who or what pushes your buttons in your immediate environment? What are the things or the people who are taking your focus day in, day out and affecting your energy. We can view all of these things in our lives as a nuisance or we can see these things as lessons that we need to help us learn something specific and evolve.
So how do I get someone to like me? Do you have a personal or work relationship is strained? This episode will help you realise that you are not everybody's cup of tea' and you might want to go back to podcast number 10. and 11. as these will also expand on this subject - links below:
Sometimes we just don't see eye to eye with others and it can feel like they are just being difficult for no reason but we often forget that others are just a mirror for what is going on inside of us. If our energy is on a certain vibrational frequency then you are going to attract that energy from others around you. They are just a mirror for how you are feeling at that very moment.
The 1% rule is a simple way of starting your day with the intention that you are going to make everything 1% better today. It's a great exercise when you feel like your energy is a little low and gets you focusing on making the world a better place instead of withdrawing inwards. This episode focuses on relationships and the little ways that we can make them 1% better today.
So how do we stop being a people pleaser and I'm not talking about helping people because we feel inspired, I'm talking about trying to get everyone to like us and being too much of a 'yes' person which causes us to fall out of alignment with ourselves.
Why you need to be your own best friend - why the way you treat yourself is so important and how it can help you align with the reactions you receive from other people. So start noticing your self talk and think of yourself as you would someone you really care about. Consider how you would treat a really good friend and start to apply these principles to yourself.
Yes really - what other people think of you is none of your business and here is why.... because if you make what everyone else thinks of you 'your' business, then you will never be able to trust yourself.
Let's explore whether you should stop caring what other people think and what is really behind it. It's time to start focusing on those opinions you care about the most and make what everyone else thinks 'none of your business.
So who am I anyway? So you have decided that you do have the courage to be yourself which feels good but then we stop and wonder 'who am I anyway?' - simply because we have spent so much time trying to fit in with other people that we realise we never actually decided who we really want to be hmmm...
So lets talk about having the courage to be yourself because we spend most of our lives trying to adapt to others and trying to be what 'we think' they want us to be but there is a freedom in deciding that you like who you truly are and that you get to decide who you want to be.
It really is not your responsibility to make anyone happy nor is it anyone else's responsibility to make you happy. Be around people when you can add to their happiness - not when they expect you to create it!